EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW WITH DAYO BENJAMIN LANIYI
Deaconess Dayo Benjamin Laniyi is the wife of Senior Pastor redeemed Christian church of God (RCCG) Throne Room, Transcorp Hilton , Abuja.
HOW HAVE YOU BEEN ABLE TO MANAGE AS A MOTHER, PASTOR’S WIFE AND CELEBRITY?
This is one of the most frequent questions I have been asked. I have learnt not to manage and I have also learnt to be very expressive because I am God centered, God focus and God delivered.
You don’t manage but live abundantly. I have learnt to be very happy because it is critical to my mental health . It’s not about been a pastors wife or a celebrity, but it’s all about Dayo, So I personally don’t manage because life itself is very short and it’s imperative that we try to live it to the fullest .
WHATS YOUR TAKE ON MARRIED WOMEN WHO HAVE DREAMS BUT CANNOT SHINE BECAUSE OF THEIR HUSBANDS MENTALITY TOWARDS WORK?
It’s not all about women who are married, even people who are not married also have significant challenges living the life of their dreams. Mature singles, divorcees, separated, all have the potential to explore.
Both most often a time they come to the real reality of all those opportunities that was misdirected. It’s all about mentality. If you are waiting for your husband to become a definition of your happiness, then you are going to keep missing the opportunity to break free. Abigail is a classic reference in the Bible.
She was well trained and groomed, she wasn’t a baby in the house, she found a life in the house of a horrible man, Nabal.
Abigail never had a baby in Nabal’s house, but she was loved by all the Servants in the house, that was why when trouble came they all ran to meet her.
It was her Intelligence and humanity that saved the whole house hold from destruction when she quickly approached David with some bread to pacify him.
Women, let’s learn to arrange ourselves in our home just like Abigail. You must know you have a very special place as a woman.
You must also know you have a very special place in your home. Start something that brings value to your life. Start something that allows you to breath.
There will be one thing you are very good at doing , that God will so bless that your husband can’t get in your way of been a blessing for people and for you. Eventually it becomes a way of escape mentally.
If you are been assaulted in your home then you need to find a way to separate yourself from your household. Don’t use your children as a means to indulge in abusive marriage.